My friend Chad, whom I have known since college, asked me a question via twitter about relationships that had me thinking today.The question was “Do you think a woman has a say in if she’s the 1 or is it up to the man to find the “one”? Do they both get to chase or does the man finds, chooses, & conquers?”

Well, I believe based on my personal experiences, that the man should ALWAYS pursue the woman. But because it is a game, we have to also recognize that even though we pursue, THEY ultimately choose. When a man walks up to a woman in the club, grocery store, church, or anywhere she knows if she’s gonna give him some play or not. Of course I couldn’t go into detail on twitter because I only have 140 characters to get my thoughts across so I thought I would write a blog about it. Anyhow, I digress. So when it is apparant that she chooses, the pursuit doesn’t stop there. Because most likely there are other men that are pursuing her, and whether we want to believe it or not it IS a competition! I don’t really like that part of it because I am a little arrogant when it comes to what I know I can offer a woman, but even I have fallen victim to losing out on someone that I wanted to be with based on my lack of urgency when someone else was just wearing her down. Lesson learned. That will never happen again. The point is IF YOU DON’T STEP UP YOU WILL LOSE! We absolutely have to pursue and conquer. The whole point is to prove to her that we are worthy of her trust and that we are able to take care of her and not just financially. And of course that goes for her too. Once she comes on in, she has to take care of the man emotionally so his incentive for taking care of her emotionally won’t diminish. Just my thoughts.

God. Love. Life. Music.
-BMC

PS: I have had a few women pursue me & it NEVER works out for me. For whatever reason. Just food for thought. Even when I did the Essensce article, I still have to be interested in you to pursue you if you are putting yourself out there for me to see. But at least half of the battle is done, those women have chosen. *smiles*